In this Article:
1. Valued Inspiration
2. The value of valuing yourself
3. A valued new little person
4. 10 tips to add value to your self-esteem
1. Valued Inspiration
The world has a new source of inspiration! Susan Boyle, one of the competitors in the show, “ Britain’s Got Talent”, made the world sit up and take notice when she went onto the stage and sang “I Dreamed a Dream”. By now, the video on You Tube which features her appearance, has circled the world numerous times.
Susan is not your typical contestant and many were cynical when she appeared on stage. However, the moment she started her song, she turned every skeptic in that room into a raving follower! If you haven’t seen the video yet, click below and be inspired!
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2. The value of valuing yourself
Imagine the loss if Susan allowed the critics of this world to convince her that she was not good enough to take part – because if she did, the world would not have been inspired by this 47 year old woman with the cheeky attitude. If Susan hadn’t shown the courage to present her incredible talent to the world, she would still be the unknown spinster in an unknown little “cluster of villages”, where the neighborhood children reportedly pestered her regularly.
Imagine living in a world where people are able to look past the surface….a world where the unique potential within each person was more important than appearance, where each of us expected to discover the greatness in one another, and where each valued them self for what they could offer to the world. That would be a world where individuals were free to contribute, unafraid to be judged and ridiculed by others. Just imagine the possibilities of such a world.
3. A valued new little person
I am proud to announce that our grandson, Alexander now has a baby brother. Alexander’s joy was contagious when he met his brother, Sebastian, for the first time. He is very proud of this tiny companion who will share his world from now on, and mom and dad have to be vigilant to ensure that his helpfulness is monitored safely; a task to be executed with great care to ensure Alexander continues to value himself as a V.I.P.
Most of us are fortunate to come into the world as “Very Important Persons”, completely trusting and free of judgment whether we are good enough or not. As infants and children we learned from our interactions with others what was judged as good or bad. Over time the messages we received from our world became the framework used to decide whether we are “OK.” or not. In other words, as we grew up, we either developed a good self-esteem which supports us, or a low self-esteem which holds us back.
4. 10 tips to add value to your self-esteem
It is possible and necessary to improve our self-esteem because we need to have courage and confidence when we tackle the obstacles between us and our goals. Growing a healthy self-esteem has to be a conscious choice. The way you value yourself, was developed over many years, and will take lots of practice to change.
- Know yourself. Learn to be objective about your perceived failures and shortcomings and be proud of what you have to offer to the world.
- Take control of your thoughts. Remember that your valuation of yourself is often based on feedback from others. Question those self-limiting perceptions that you have about yourself.
- Move beyond the fear. To overcome something that was difficult to do is a huge confidence booster.
- Language is powerful. Use positive statements when you talk about yourself and your abilities.
- Celebrate your successes. When you accomplish something that was difficult for you, it serves as an inspiration to others.
- Cultivate a grateful attitude. To remind ourselves of what works well in our lives empowers us to focus on positive aspects of our challenges.
- When others judge you by what you can’t do, tell yourself that they are missing out on discovering your uniqueness, as people are not only defined by what they can do, but also by who they really are.
- Collect evidence of the things you are doing well and use this evidence when you compile positive statements to feed your self esteem.
- Ask yourself what will happen if you really believed the statements that you have compiled about yourself?
When you are tempted to compare yourself to others, remember that we are not all that different after all. Deep down we all have the same basic human needs as this quote reminds us:
“I laugh, I love, I hope, I try, I hurt, I need, I fear, I cry. And I know you do the same things too. So we are really not that different, me and you.” Colin Rave