Did you ever find yourself thinking about food all the time when you were on a weight-management program? Or did you ever avoid social occasions because the food served is not allowed?
Have you ever felt that the quality of your life is affected by your general appearance? If you have a gain while you are on a weight-management program, how does that make you feel?
Over the past few years I have often seen individuals struggling with issues like these and similar ones. I have seen people losing and gaining, joining our groups and giving up. I have witnessed successes but I have also seen many quitting before they reached their goals, and trying again and again.
I started asking questions: What was happening here? Why was it so difficult for some individuals to stay committed? How could they be empowered to be more successful with their weight-management issues? I became concerned because it became clear to me that for many, following a weight-management program of any kind could have the opposite effect from what individuals wanted in the first place.
This is a graph completed by a dr. Bacon in 2002. It refers to research done during 2000 about the relationship between obesity and dieting. I could not get a later one, but there is great concern among health professionals about the raise in obesity during recent years. According to this graph., dieting increases in proportion to the rise in obesity. The more overweight people become, the more weight loss products are sold. This is crazy! Have you ever stopped to ask yourself; why are people becoming more and more obese if the weight-loss market is supposed to be so successful?
I will tell you what I have noticed; many, who lose and gain repeatedly, find that their weight challenges increases over time. The body’s natural ability to create equilibrium becomes impaired and the metabolism slows down. Losing weight becomes a slow and difficult process, which in turn, has an impact on the psychological as well as the physical wellbeing of clients.
There is no question that by improving ones diet and lifestyle, you could increase your chances’ of staying healthy for longer. By managing your weight wisely and by increasing your activity levels, you could maximize your level of health.
The message from the media is that perfectly slim is the only acceptable way of being. In order to fit in, Individuals spend thousands every year to follow that impossible dream-even though we all know that the pictures we see are all touched up to create an image that doesn’t even exists. So hopeful dieters try and try again and when they fail, they lose faith in themselves and their weight-management challenges escalates.
For many years I have been asking myself: Why is it that people who want to lose weight so badly, seems to find it so difficult to stay committed? Can it really be a lack of self-discipline? Or are there reasons behind the weight-challenges that should be addressed?
And this is what I have learned: Human beings are four dimensional – body, mind, heart and spirit
Normally, when we want to lose weight, we focus on the body. If we can discipline the body by eating less and by exercising, we can lose weight. Right? If that is all that is needed, why are there so many individuals who battle to lose weight and keep it off?
To a degree, we focus on the power of the mind as well: We visualize an outcome, we set goals for ourselves and we work hard to get to those goals. If you can do this you are guaranteed success. Right? If that is true, why does so many who started out very exited and hopeful, give up after a few months, before they get even close to those goals?
We involve the body and to some extent we involve the mind as well. What we do not consider is how the heart and the spirit interact with the body and the mind. Weight gain and weight management does not happen in isolation. What happens inside an individual influences the way individuals react to their environments and how they react to their environments influences their ability to manage themselves effectively on various levels including weight-management.
So, I believe that if you focus only on goal setting and a disciplined program, you are putting the cart before the horse. To get anywhere you need the power of a passionate, purpose driven, love filled life. It is when you confront those self limiting thoughts you had about yourself and the world, when you open your eyes to the potential within yourself and you become courage’s enough to fulfill that potential; it is then that you become inspired to do what it takes to give yourself what you want most. And when the desire to give to you is fueled from the heart, the choices you make are driven from the spirit within.
And this is why I chose to turn to coaching. As part of my practice, I have developed a program which does not only focus on the weight that clients have to lose, but rather on all four dimensions of our existence.
I can tell you that this approach works. The success of my clients is telling me that we are on the right track. Clients are telling me that their life’s has changed. They tell me that they are able for the first time to stay committed long enough to see real results. But the wonderful thing is that these clients are not only experiencing success with weight-management. Because this is a holistic approach, success in one area, leads to success in other areas as well. And this is something that frustrated me enormously during my years of working with weight loss in the conventional way. I often had clients that were full of potential, but the failures they experienced at the scale, clouded their faith in themselves. And the conventional approach, simply did not allow me to address this effectively.
My Focus On Health program offers a holistic, long term approach to weight management.
The program focuses on mind-management, self-discovery, and personal development. Through powerful conversations we discover your core strengths and utilize these strengths in your weight- work- and life-challenges.
If you are managing on your own, do get an accountability buddy to support you. This can be a friend or a partner whom you can ask to support you with your commitments. Explain to this buddy how you want to be supported and meet regularly to track your progress. And don’t focus on weight-loss alone. Work on small achievable goals like changing certain habits and do it one day at a time. To be committed to answer to someone who cares about you helps to keep you inspired.
Last thought : "To accomplish great things we must not only act, but also dream: Not only plan, but also believe" Anatole France (1844- 1924).